We all have a fundamental desire to help our loved ones, and this is particularly true of those of us with early-onset Parkinsons disease. Life moves along, and we try to advance with it. We are used to taking care of our responsibilities. But when we have Parkinsons, the rules change.
I was trying to accomplish many things and not doing any of them well. I felt defeated in my job, and as a mom, daughter, and wife. I didnt know how to step back and recognize my limitations. I had been taking care of everything for over 25 years and I loved it.
Now I find myself in unfamiliar territory. It may be a natural part of getting older or my progression, but I am not the same person. I cant do everything that I could in the past. And accepting my limitations is not easy.
When my doctor suggested that I see apsychologist, my immediate reaction was, No, I dont need to. However, she was right. I did need therapy, at least in the short term. While it is not for everyone, therapy has been beneficial when I find myself struggling. My therapist can make me aware of things that my friends, family, and others who are part of my everyday routine cant see in me.
Talking with a professional provides a different perspective. And sometimes, having a fresh look at your situation can help you to get to where you want to be. Unfortunately, therapy is not always available, and people often avoid seeking this kind of help because of the stigma attached.
While my approach is still a work in progress, I have developed some new rules. I am sure that I will add more and you may have some rules of your own. With the busy holiday season approaching, you may want to give these a try:
Parkinsons makes us feel helpless at times. However, its not just about us. What about the people in our lives? Do they feel the same way? Maybe playing by the new rules and allowing them to help us will make them feel more useful. We can see our acceptance of their help as a gift to them rather than a burden something as simple as opening a car door can make all the difference.
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Diagnosed with Young Onset Parkinsons Disease at the age of 45 was devastating. After struggling with this life changing diagnosis, I decided to make a change. As a wife and mother of three boys, I needed to attack this. I started building my toolbox. I researched everything. One common thread was exercise. A doctor recommended dance lessons specifically, the Argentine Tango, so I started ballroom dance lessons with my husband and we still have a weekly dance lesson date. You can find me teaching and participating in classes from dancing to boxing. Parkinsons takes things from you but it can also give you things you never expected. Your perspective changes. Five years ago, life gave me lemons but Im choosing to make lemonade. Its not quite perfect but its mine and with a little luck, it will get a little bit sweeter.
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