Singles in the City | An insider's guide to the Tulsa dating scene

The Census Bureau identifies "single" as simply not married. But on, say, Facebook, "single" and "married" are just two options in a spectrum of commitment. "It's complicated" can mean anything from "We're about to break up" to "We're dating but fighting a lot" to "Someone misunderstood that random hook-up."

The solitary status is often reviled, but being single -- perhaps more than any other relationship status -- comes in a hundred different shades, with different reasons and stages.

Your single is not my single. Her single is not his single. But single is never static; it's a dynamic, moving, changing thing.

Post-painful breakup single has a vastly different vibe than say, casually dating around single or girls just wanna have fun single. Know where you are at all times. Know what you want -- or don't. And remember, do what Nicci tells you.

Last July, UTW went out on the town (it was research!) with Nicci Atchley. The social media maven, girl-about-town and Nicci 6 dating blogger (nicci6.com) took us out to see how single is done in Tulsa. She and her handpicked crew of six other single ladies hit up six hotspots in one night.

Pre-Partying

53.1 percent: Percentage of unmarried U.S. adults who are women.

Along for the ride were six other gorgeous singletons: Lot 6 Art Bar owner Vanessa Somerville, semi-retired Tulsa Ballet dancer Sher'ron Underwood (who was injured and had to head home after dinner at In the Raw), tanned fitness fanatic Tami Fisher, TCC students Marcela Guerrero and Christina Doty, and dazzling diva Viviana Gonzalez.

It's been 10 months since that fateful (research!) night last summer. Throughout that time, we've kept up with Nicci's dating twists and turns, identified with her hopes and obstacles. We found her this spring, sipping white wine on the patio at Doc's Wine & Food, contemplating a serious relationship, her club-hopping days sunsetting behind her.

On an unidentified night in the neon-orange peak of July 2011, six single ladies took on Tulsa. The Fabulous Mid Life Crisis Band generously offered up their roomy tour bus, their kind company and designated driver status. The bandmates drove the ladies to some of their favorite T-town hotspots.

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Singles in the City | An insider's guide to the Tulsa dating scene